When i was being trained for a massage,
my master told me politely,
"remember, your real learning will start
AFTER you go out to serve people"
i looked at him, a bit apprehensive about what he says.
Do i have to learn from my 'mistakes'?
And i asked him, in a hurt voice,
"Sir, do you mean i will be making mistakes? then please train me more... don't you have confidence in me?"
My master, a keralite doctor aged 53 then, smiled under his long grey moustache.
he said,
"You may not make mistakes, yet you learn.
Perfection in Massage depends on who takes it, too.
and you- as a giver, have no right to blame the taker if the massage is not perfect.
a giver must understand, must LEARN from the responses of the taker."
I remember these words well.
and now i think,
of many life situation,
where we have a role of a giver.
As a giver, i vow to serve the taker and learn from him.
Monday, November 1, 2010
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Friday, November 27, 2009
What's so private about Fatigue?
You and many men of worth today regard relaxation as a private thing. Is it male chauvenism? Maybe not. Maybe we all expect our world to be a place for active, energetic people and thus it is politically incorrect to say one is tired and he needs to relax.
Some won't even say, "oh, I am tired!" in the presence of their colleagues. This, I think, is a result of the higher definitions of Efficiency and Activiness. The example might sound quite rudimentary and you for one, might not have felt so detached from your colleagues that you didn't even say you were tired. There are degrees, Sir! When you want to sleep during a flight, you make it sure you keep a distance from the passenger next to you, and you'd avoid talking to her/him when you sense you'd yawn.
True, it is none of the business for that "next passenger on the aisle seat" to know you are tired. Only a man who has a texhnical knowledge to help you relax, might be chosen to know your state of body and mind. You should talk freely to your masseur about your fatigue and if you don't mind, think aloud of the possible reasons of the fatigue, while the masseur listens to you.
These are only some observations, and you may have your views, experiences to share.
Nice if you write a comment.
Some won't even say, "oh, I am tired!" in the presence of their colleagues. This, I think, is a result of the higher definitions of Efficiency and Activiness. The example might sound quite rudimentary and you for one, might not have felt so detached from your colleagues that you didn't even say you were tired. There are degrees, Sir! When you want to sleep during a flight, you make it sure you keep a distance from the passenger next to you, and you'd avoid talking to her/him when you sense you'd yawn.
True, it is none of the business for that "next passenger on the aisle seat" to know you are tired. Only a man who has a texhnical knowledge to help you relax, might be chosen to know your state of body and mind. You should talk freely to your masseur about your fatigue and if you don't mind, think aloud of the possible reasons of the fatigue, while the masseur listens to you.
These are only some observations, and you may have your views, experiences to share.
Nice if you write a comment.
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